Anonymous said: Pet peeves about the tumblr recovery community?
Awhile back I answered something similar about this, but I cannot find the post, so I’ll write up a new one.
Recovery Community Pet Peeves:
- Before and after photo sets. Recovery is not synonymous with weight restoration. Being underweight does not equal someone’s rock bottom. A mental illness cannot be determined by physical appearance and I believe these photographs perpetuate eating disorder stigma, no matter how well the intention.
- Sharing meal plans. In my experience, it seems to fuel competition among others with eating disorders. Also, it comes with a slew of anonymous hate half of the time with misleading and irrelevant information. Be fiercely protective of your recovery. Your journey is your own, and it will not look exactly like anyone else’s.
- Playing dietitian. I don’t care what stats people give you, unless you are a registered dietitian, it is not information you should be giving out. Body compositions are so varied and health risks are different for each person that it’s irresponsible to give nutrition advice over the internet.
- Clean eating. The separation of food into “good” and “bad” is exactly what shouldn’t be happening in recovery. All foods are safe and no food makes you an inherently terrible person. If you like a food, eat it. Not every meal has to be beautifully crafted and perfectly balanced. Your body will want different things at different times and that should be honored. I get so tired of seeing gluten-free vegan recipes pop up on my dash. You cannot place your obsession on another aspect of food and call yourself recovered.
- Anonymous Hate. I mean, really. Are some people so unhappy that they try and tear those down working to make something of their lives and recover from their mental illness?
What I love about the recovery community:
I love that there is a place where people can find solidarity and support for their recovery journey and process. Eating disorders are very isolated illness and I think, when used wisely and responsibly, Tumblr’s community of those in recovery can be mutually beneficial and inspiring. It’s incredibly moving to watch people grow and move away from their illness and become their own person and no longer define themselves with their diagnosis.